N. Jay Tow, L. M. H. C., Board Certified Clinical Sexologist
7481 NW 4th Street, Plantation, FL 33317 (Google Map)
phone: (954) 646-6439
e-mail: notarisk@aol.com

Diplomate, American Board of Sexology
Member of The Florida Mental Health Counselors Association
Member of the Broward County Mental Health Association

Regular contributor to the National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse
(NAASCA.org) and Special Guest on the weekly talk radio show, "Community Matters"

It is difficult to confide your most personal and private thoughts and feelings in someone who is a stranger to you. Seeking help to face problems and not knowing how to find it or whether there are answers can be terrifying. It is hard enough to take the steps to reach out for help without worrying about being judged or shamed by a professional. My goal as a therapist is to provide my clients with a safe and judgment-free counseling experience.

Choosing a Therapist

One of the most, if not the most, important factors affecting a successful outcome for counseling is choosing the right therapist. Therapists have different styles as well as different skill levels. Some therapists will sit back and allow their clients to talk and then reflect back to them in order to help them gain insight. Others will give advice and tell clients what they should be doing. I am very engaged with my clients during the therapeutic process. My clients are encouraged to focus on solutions and not to dwell on the past. My clients learn and practice more effective coping skills. I help my clients find the solutions that work for them. My main goal is to help clients improve the quality of their lives. I help them to change how they think of things as well as change behaviors that are having a negative effect on their lives. I never judge my clients and encourage them to see themselves in the most positive light.

I have many years of experience as a therapist and provide individual, couples, family, and group counseling. I work primarily with adults and adolescents. I am a trained substance abuse counselor and a Board Certified Sex Therapist, providing therapy for individuals and couples. I work with couples experiencing difficulties with their relationship and/or sex life, and offer pre-marital counseling. My practice also includes the treatment of mood disorders, anxiety, abuse issues, compulsive behaviors, as well as sexual disorders and addictions.

I have extensive experience treating compulsive sexual behavior (Sex Addiction). See my article "Understanding of Sexual Addiction; Are you a sex addict?"

I also have extensive experience working with clients who live alternative lifestyles, providing a safe place for people living all alternative lifestyles to talk openly and explore issues. I work with members of the GLBT community and have experience working with transsexuals in transition.

I take the mystery out of psychotherapy and have a genuine understanding of what it takes to change. My role as a therapist is to work in partnership with my clients to guide and empower them to find solutions to life's problems. You will have a safe space to explore your issues, find solutions, and receive my support throughout the process.

Do You Have Unresolved Abuse Or Trauma Issues?

Ask me about Rapid Resolution Therapy. You can resolve these issues in one or two sessions.

Therapy Via Webcam is also available !!!!!

I have been doing counseling via webcam for several years and it has become a more widely accepted way of providing services to clients. Here is an article in the New York Times:

Therapists are seeing patients online - New York Times

This works just like visiting my office without leaving the comfort of your home. Sessions last for an hour. Save gas and travel time, and there's no need to find a babysitter. You receive all the services clients visiting my office receive. All that's required is that you have a webcam and install SKYPE on your computer. SKYPE is encrypted, so it ensures your privacy and confidentiality. This is an ideal alternative to those living too far from my office to make office visits practical.

What to expect when You meet with Me:

Most people who begin counseling experience some anxiety. Don't be surprised if you are a little nervous. After all, you are meeting me for the 1st time and are hoping that I can help you with the problems and issues you are experiencing. You may have some expectations of what you will experience either from your past experience with a therapist, what you have seen in the media, or from what friends or relatives have told you.

I understand that seeking counseling can be an ordeal for some and I make every effort to help you feel comfortable with me. You will enter my office and see a notice to ring a call bell. If I am not with another client, I will peak my head through the window and greet you with a smile and introduce myself. If I am with another client, I will greet you as soon as possible. I will hand you a few forms to complete. These forms give me some general information about you and the nature of the problem you came to me to help you with.

Once you have completed these forms we will sit and have a conversation. During this conversation I will get to know you and help identify the issues that brought you to see me. From this point we will work together to seek solutions that will help you improve the quality of your life.